Every year, 26,000 babies are stillborn in America. In 2003, one of them was my son.

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

You Don't Get Over Love

Mother Henna's website pointed me in the direction of this video, and it is so powerful for those of us in the land of the babylost, whether we are parents or caring friends and family. "You don't get over love."

No. You don't.

1 comment:

Virginia Llorca said...

I am RH negative and had three stillborn children, two boys and one girl. I don't think you ever "get over it". I think it is like a bump in the road and it stops you for awhile and then you figure out to how to get around it. Or a stone in your shoe. You get used to it and keep on walking. I don't want to "get over it". I feel it would be unfair to those babies. My husband wouldn't let me buy gravestones and said they weren't really there, they were gone. So I have to hold on to what I have. I had one live birth after that. I wrote a fiction story and the guy was afraid they were not going to make it and finally said he didn't want her to say the baby was dead cuz the baby was still alive in his heart, or maybe it was just his spirit and he could feel it, it was different than before, and he said, "I know it's in your heart, too". Then years later, he said he knew then that they would make it because, they were sitting on a beach and "you melted into me." Fiction: a rewrite of your own life.