Every year, 26,000 babies are stillborn in America. In 2003, one of them was my son.

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Six Years On

I never dream of him, though I have always wanted to. I've wanted a chance to see him, because I can't picture how he would look real, here. I've had dreams about people I have lost, dreams in which I've been granted the chance to say goodbye. Other dreams have ended when I wake up, bewildered, because in my dream the person I love has really been alive all these years, and I've been lied to about their death.

Why can't I dream of him? Would it give me any comfort if I did?

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Six years ago I sat in a different house from the one I sit in today, across town, disbelieving. "I'm sorry, he's gone," the doctor told me that morning, and my life fell apart.

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Last week I sat in the candlelight at a Christmas service for people who have a hard time at the holidays, in the very same chapel where we gathered to say goodbye to Ben six years ago. I felt him there. I always do. I almost never feel him with me anywhere else. And I talked to him.

Where are you, little one?

I'm here, mama, I'm here.

Where?

Right here, he said, and I felt a flutter in my heart.

I'm always here.

6 comments:

Katey Coffing said...

HUGS

livingintherainbow said...

Tough times again, love to you and yours. Hope you know peace and some more healing. Sorry I wasn't online yesterday but was not in internet land.

The chapel sounds an special place indeed.

Monica H said...

He is a flutter in your heart.

I've never dreamt of the boys either.

Debbie said...

I have been thinking of you so much this last week, Virginia. So, so much.

I never dream of Sophie, either-- and I get truly envious of people who "feel" their babes all around them.

Sending you lots of love tonight. Thinking of Ben-- he is the flutter in your heart. <3

Mommy (You can call me OM) said...

Beautiful. Just beautiful.

Peace, my friend.

Catherine W said...

Beautiful. Thinking of you and Ben. xo